If I could live every moment seeing only the things that are right, the things I’m doing right, the things to feel good about, to feel proud of, to rejoice in…I can’t even imagine how much improved my life would be. What really is the use in looking for what’s wrong?
In every moment you can see ways in which things are right or ways in which things are wrong. Where your default setting comes from may vary and I don’t think it’s a simple answer or simple solution. I realized tonight in a bikram yoga class that a large part of my seeing the negatives comes from a competitive mindset. A gal in class was doing poses better than me and I noticed that – instead of noticing how well I was doing on the poses myself, my commitment to coming to class, and my general physical well-being. How silly right?
We are taught competitiveness early in life and definitely in music. What if that is a sick way of teaching children? Instead of competitive how about thinking impressive. Instead of finding all the faults how about praising the good things. Build your strength and transmute your weakness through ..well I’m not sure about that. Some very wise people (Master Ni, Master San Gee Tam) remind me, force me, shove it in my face at times, to be aware of and look at my severe shortcomings.
So there must be a balance. A person who never slows down to examine themselves and consider their issues probably spells trouble for themselves and those they interact with. However, maybe it is best to always see the good in your daily life. Never compete since you’ll always just be trying to see who’s better and how you lack. And set aside time daily for examination and working on yourself.
Truly the glass is half full and half empty. But there are humongous implications to your mental health and social well-being depending on which viewpoint you take. Clearly, half full is the best choice. Appreciate what’s good in every moment – there’s a lot of it.