What is drama? Perhaps it is just a big distraction from your ability to move on from an upsetting event. Here’s my best take on how to acknowledge upset, avoid drama, and continue living your life.
That is drama. Any extreme of emotion and/or the rapid change between them is drama. Why do we need to create drama? I don’t know. But perhaps here’s how. An upsetting event happens such as a big fight, emotional blow out, huge let down, betrayal, etc. The upset sucks and is real. With upset you can and should look deeper into it so that you may learn from it. That being said you can’t learn everything from an upset because it probably involves another person and or just life itself which can behave as another person too. You must look deeper at yourself and how you contributed to the upset. Particularly useful is how you will prevent future situations earlier on to avoid repeated similar upsets. I think the key here is to prevent situations earlier on. Generally an upset is confusing because you feel powerless and bewildered. This probably happens because the seed for the upset had been planted long ago and your inner voice was aware of the mistake but you choose to avoid and ignore it for a while. Then the upset explodes and you are blindsighted and confused. So the tip is to stop momentum earlier on when you see it heading for a mistake or a repeated mistake.
Now, after you’ve reflected and grown and changed yourself to the best of your ability (or at least set the intention to change yourself) then you should move on. Surely, the amount of time and energy you spent dealing with the upset has taken your attention away from other matters and life simply requires more upkeep than to go a few days, weeks or even months without attention. Enter the drama. The drama is what keeps you focusing on the upset. The drama is just a big distraction from the other parts of your life that need your attention. The upset happened and it sucked. But you learned all you could and will take preventative measures in the future. Now, let the drama subside. Don’t wear either of those drama masks.
Here are some tips to stop the drama because inevitably you’ll be sucked into your own creating of drama.
- Group therapy is more effective than one-on-one
- Physical exercise, a heavy session
- looking at the other areas of your life that need attention
Other than that I really don’t know because I struggle with letting the past go. When I figure out how to really be mature and not become entangled in drama after an upset I’ll let you know!