Although I know it’s better to think about what you DO want rather than what you don’t want I would like to talk about some things you don’t want just for a minute.
- Don’t pick the hottest woman in the room
- Beware the woman who is extremely receptive
- Give no time to a flirtatious woman who is not single
Don’t pick the hottest woman in the room:
Hopefully you aren’t looking from a physical standpoint only as that will surely lead to trouble however you want to find a mate who is pleasant to look at. The nice thing is the more the relationship develops the more attractive they will appear to you 🙂 Beware of the hottest woman in the room and do not pick her. This is for many reasons. Female form is great and should be celebrated but the hottest woman in the room will have all the guys she meets wanting to celebrate her, some for purely physical reasons and some starting there and wanting more to develop. You are asking for trouble if you pick this woman. Second, there may be something about a woman who always wants to appear to be the best looking thing. It could be a hyper-competitiveness with her friends in which case the love of one man won’t do for very long. Soon the appeal of you will wear off and she’ll need the next shiny thing. A woman who spends hours a week on her outward appearance could have been spending hours a week on her inner beauty. Physical appearance is truly only skin deep. Self-worth comes from a much deeper place. If she has inner beauty she won’t need to rely on outer beauty for security.
Beware the woman who is extremely receptive:
Although it feels great to meet a woman who seems totally into you. There can be wild, fantastical and exciting moments between you two. However, a woman who is extremely receptive to you as a man is to be avoided. She will likely also be extremely receptive to other men as well. If she doesn’t outright cheat on you, good, but when your relationship hits a rough spot, distance, or she has an opportunity then she may very well receive attention (or other things) from another man. Women who are apt to make physically risque connections with you in public or dangerous places are also willing to do that with other men. In other words, if she’s easy for you – she’s easy for them too! Beware.
Give no time to a flirtatious woman who is not single:
This one should be obvious.
You’ll notice in the first two cases you are trying to avoid extremes. Any relationship that has extreme sides is not good. You want steady, reliable, calm and open. Extreme may be exciting and fun but like a pendulum it will swing back the other way.
Always use caution when choosing any course of action and especially a mate. Look at what you are getting yourself into with a clear and sober mind. Do not be tricked by your biology. You should feel very, very secure in a woman’s commitment to the relationship before you proceed with her. It’s your heart, your feelings and your life you are directing. It demands a lot of thought, attention and care. Be careful with yourself.