Why do you need to stay with something? Is your dedication appropriate? Why are you holding on to things that hurt or haven’t been panning out or haven’t been manifesting in the way you expect? Here’s the thing; it may not be enough to just “let it go.” You will actually need to change. Look: life moves forward. If you need proof just look at how yourself and others bodies are advancing in age and thus changing how they look. Life is ALL about change. In fact, that is what the Tai Chi symbol represents at the top of this blog. The question is: When you are hitting your head against something will you have the courage the CHANGE?
Let’s look at what change really means. For starters, it does not mean taking a thought and saying, “OK, I won’t think that anymore,” or “I’ll adjust that thought or avoid that one or,” etc. Change requires action to be real. In fact, everything requires action to be real. Intention is where you set your course of action but the actual result is where life happens. Make the change. That thing you are holding on to…a career, a relationship, a mentor, a belief, a job, a car, etc… it is actually holding you back. You have to make a change. Don’t be afraid. In the making the change you are allowing for something much better to enter into your life.
Change is hard and scary at first but totally worth it in the end. And when you’ve made a change and progress down that path for a while, great! but it will probably eventually be time for another change. You will always be changing or rather, you should always need to be changing. Don’t get stuck. Change!! You will still be there. As you change you get a chance to drop some of your negative or non-helpful beliefs and add or emphasize more positive beliefs. Optimism is really the ultimate goal for state of mind. No matter how glorious something seems if it is making you feel something other than positive you must change, not just think, “ok I’ll let it go”…but change! Now we are back to intention. Keep your intention to feel optimistic and good, keep that above all other attachments, and you will keep changing for the better.
Intention leads the energy leads the action. So your action is what needs to manifest. You may be scared, you may think you are missing something but let’s be honest: that thing you are holding onto is not working out! That’s all you need to know. You should only be pursuing what is working out for you. Always move on, keep moving on. When you find the “right fits” they will be moving on with you and together you can progress towards better and better feelings.
You can’t change anyone. You can influence people to an extent. You can’t alter the past. When your dedication to something is not working out…job, person, relationship, dream, career, ideals, goals…then change them. It was never your dream to have a dream that isn’t coming true was it? So change the dream. It was never your goal to have a goal that just isn’t happening. The relationship you want is not one that you need to keep chasing around. Let them go by changing. Don’t be afraid, it’s natural, but better is beyond this!