I heard this the other day over a casual dinner with a good and wise friend. It really knocked me out, really blew my mind. I can only paraphrase but her idea was that in most cases your animal instinct helps you. It helps you to avoid dangerous situations EXCEPT in the case of physical attraction. Think about the truth of that and the painful almost comical irony.
Your animal instinct serves to protect you in all (most) areas except physical attraction in which case it does the exact opposite of help protect you. Wow. There it is. Biological racket much?
In every area your animal instinct helps protect you except in fidelity. Your biology encourages you to take action towards hook-ups. It does not encourage you to stop, turn around, say no. and it affects EVERYONE, you, your girlfriend, your ex’s, your spouse, everyone.
Why? I guess it could be the fact that sex is needed for reproduction and your biology doesn’t care about or honor fidelity or exclusive relationships? What does it want – for everyone to get pregnant all the time? I don’t understand this situation. Or at least I have a racket about it. Don’t particularly like knowing that I’ve been cheated on or that ex’s are being with new people or that no matter what my partner will be experiencing others hitting on her, others wanting to be with her and she will have those urges with people aside from me as well.
My wise friend also said something positive when I complained about the desperation of this situation. Responding to my whining about my partner will always be receiving offers from other men, my friend said that my partner can say “no.” Again, mind blown. I just keep coming back to the same beginning: don’t pick someone who cheats or who isn’t ready to be in a committed relationship. Unfortunately the hole in that strategy is that many will claim that they are but…
So what does it take to be a human who is choosing to rise above their animal instinct to mate with anyone of the opposite sex? What are the signs? What to look for?