I just recently moved to Hong Kong for an exciting new job. Lucky me – I get to help start an instrumental music program at an innovative international school. It has been a fantastic experience thus far and what’s more is that I get to live in Hong Kong where I can experience new food, language, and culture. I love the city, it’s great transit, and the loads of things to do.
One main reason I chose this place is because here it is not weird to be seen doing tai chi or any qigong in public spaces. In fact when renting my flat, my top non-negotiable was that it was very near the largest park in HK; Victoria Park. It’s awesome! I found a great sifu (Chinese for teacher/master) to study Dong style tai chi. I got a fancy new radio with alarm and have been using it to get up at 4:30AM daily to go practice tai chi in the park in the moonlight as the sun rises until 6:15AM. I’m not alone either. There are dozens of other folks out in the park this time of day doing tai chi or qigong. So in this morning’s practice I had an epiphany; such is the result of a good tai chi practice. I learned more about what love is.
It’s true that everyone will let you down. In fact, any partner you pick will have things you really like about them – that’s why you chose them. But to be sure every partner will also have moments of disappointing you in a big way. It’s unavoidable. It’s human. Hopefully it’s not too extreme but I’m talking about some big nasty stuff.
It’s kind of a funny joke – you choose to love someone and you know that they are eventually, in some capacity, going to send you bad vibes. Maybe by cheating or being abusive but hopefully something less upsetting like just being rude or demanding. But because you chose to love this person you are acknowledging and accepting that you will put up with the unpleasantness. You choose to accept their bad.
Usually when I love someone I’m totally into it until they show me a side I dislike. But now I see, you agree to accept those sides when you decide to love them. So, in my case, I’ll need to pick better next time so I get someone with less extreme dark sides but even when she disappoints or upsets me I’ll need to let it slide and approach it with a “well I knew that was going to happen” attitude and not let it end the relationship because they failed to be perfect.
To love someone really means acknowledging and accepting their worst sides. Be wise and get to know who you are dealing with – try to see their absolute worst side before you commit to loving them. I do think there are some dark sides that are not acceptable for my taste. Regardless, think of it as a funny joke. Loving someone doesn’t mean good feelings. Perhaps just the opposite loving someone means dealing with all their badness. She/he will always let you down.