Men are strength and love.
Women are warmth and love.
Women are water. Men are fire. Yin Yang. How does it all fit together? How can it find harmony? What is the whole we are a part of?
Well I’m not completely sure about the women part but this morning an idea came to me that simplified the entire male female dynamic. If we can remove our standards and ideals and see how situations occur we stand a chance at seeing the compatibility and similarities we share.
It’s a good thing to believe men are love. Men are sometimes misinterpreted because they try to use strength in the wrong situation, wrong time, or wrong way. Men are incredibly strong not just physically but the way of being of a somewhat developed man often includes strength. This can be as discipline, confidence, directness, goal achieving or willingness to try. The goal of these ‘strength’ attributes is to achieve more love.
Women have something men don’t. They have a certain loveliness and warmth. They use this to achieve more love. I don’t really understand women or how this attribute works but it can be seen in their physical beauty, their flirty way of being, their receptivity, supportiveness, kindness, and nurturing qualities.
Now, see how when one side can’t understand the other that a man could be bitter about women as manipulative and a woman could be warded off by a man’s aggressiveness. Really they are just both trying to get the same thing: love.
So this post is about trying to simplify the way men/women are perceived as a part of the same whole with two diametric ways of moving energy. If a man and a woman can learn to work together and understand each other, to be generous and extend good will, patience, and security, then they can see that strength and warmth are actually the perfect compliments for one another.
Guys, appreciate the warmth you get from a woman as her ultimate gift. You are lucky when a woman shows you warmth. Ladies, appreciate when a man expresses something with strength. It means he wants to achieve love. Its just that these are the only ways these two sexes know how. Drop your standards and ideals about what they should be doing or not doing. Recognise their efforts to connect with you.
What are your principles and values? If you drop your shoulds and should nots then you are freed to make choices of action rather than reactions or vindicated sentences. If I could drop any part of my personality it would be my tendency to be vindictive. Once these things are gone, your principles and values will be free to direct your action. So if your principle is love and your value is space then you can realise a woman will give you attention when she wants to. If she doesn’t, she doesn’t and there’s nothing you can do about it. Relevant to anyone out there dating. Same for women, if a man is texting you it’s because he likes you. If he isn’t he isn’t.