Or another way to say it is do not go with things that are unnatural. Here is my interpretation at the present moment of what Taoism is about in one aspect.
Have you ever found yourself in a real psychological difficulty? I’m talking about depression, anger, obsession, all the bad things. It is not natural to be psychologically disturbed. My theory states that if you are obviously having a non-natural difficulty it is because the upsetting situation you got into came about not-naturally. Therefore, only do what is natural.
If you’ve forced a situation to occur generally the results are not positive. They are hard to deal with and that is not natural. This happens because you forced the situation rather than letting a different situation naturally occur. If you find yourself having to deal with some really tough thoughts or patterns of thought then maybe try saying to yourself that this is not natural. You are having a not natural reaction to a situation that did not occur naturally. Both the situation and your reaction were not natural. Therefore, you have to let it go. It was not real. It was forced or contrived and simply not rooted in the only thing that has any power – nature or naturally occurring things.
Nothing in nature is trying to be something it isn’t. That is why nature works so well and is so astounding. Go with your own nature. Don’t try to be something you aren’t, don’t try to have something that doesn’t come on it’s own, don’t force anything.
I hope this sheds some light onto the formerly confusing (for me) phrase “go with the flow” or “go with your own nature.” In the future to avoid unnatural reactions (which are miserable and hard to break) you should only do what is natural. You have no power to create things that are not natural.
You probably have an alter ego if you have ever made choices and either a few minutes, hours or weeks later really regretted them and wondered why, why did you do that?!
Why do we have alter egos? Well, why do we have egos? It’s only my guess but an ego is where we take the beliefs we have learned about the world and formulate a singular point from which we can operate under those beliefs. For example, if you think gravity is real, your ego will not try to fly. Ok more complicated, if you think you are a bad person, your ego will work to hide or conceal that fact while simultaneously enabling you to be bad. I really don’t understand egos but they are a formulated mask or shield that allows you to maintain a sense of self and operating system for dealing with the world. It is a good thing to be able to disengage your ego when receiving communication from others in relationships particularly if you value the other person such as a partner or a teacher. This can be difficult. And, rest assured, they will mostly likely have an ego too!
So, the alter ego, this may be where you have two sets of beliefs that conflict with one another and when your primary ego can’t integrate an event that has taken place in your life, for example your girlfriend cheating on you, then you will subconsciously resort to the alter ego who can then alleviate your primary sense of self from acknowledging the facts. To continue the example, gf cheated so alter ego comes along and says I don’t need anyone and pushes the ex away and runs away, buys a pack of cigarettes and abandons projects.
A confusing question is how many alter egos do you have? They may not all be negative. When I find myself saying “yea you know what just forget this, I don’t need this I’ll just do ____” that is probably my alter ego talking and no, it won’t make me happy. You can’t follow an alter ego because eventually your primary ego will come back and look at what’s happened and say “how did I get here?” The key, as always, is awareness and centeredness. Keep steady, be patient, wait and relax.