This topic sucks and may strike a nerve. It was a huge push button topic for me for a long time. However, the only real way to deal with the uncomfortable subject of being cheated on is to accept that it happened and it’s not really such a big deal. Seems crazy right? The fact is, it happens all the time. People of a certain level will always be plotting to leave you and move on to the more convenient or exciting thing. The way to circumvent this is to not attract people on that level or below. Unfortunately, that can be hard to do as most humans don’t try to evolve or stay evolved and biology is a tricky persuasive racket. It is not about being judgmental. It is about being someone, yourself, who is trustworthy.
People can operate at a level of only violence and sex – many people actually do go here for their intimate relationships. That’s called an animal level or biological level. Above that people can operate on a social level – they’ll care about their reputation, appearances, what their peers think. Both of those levels are not trustworthy. They lack benevolent intention and integrity.
Integrity means your actions and words are integrated into one direction. Always trust someones actions and do not trust their words. You cannot trust words. Trust actions. Someone who says they’ll do things but doesn’t do them does not have integrity and cannot be trusted. Don’t be a fool and trust something that isn’t trustworthy. That is asking for trouble.
If a person can get beyond social mind they will have still far to go and a difficult journey through the harsh realities and triviality of life and growth before they can operate from a level of spirit or world wide love. This is where you’ll find benevolent and trustworthy people.
So, think of all the people you know, how many have risen above animal and social levels? How many have done the work along the journey of maturity, growth and spirituality? Probably very few let’s be honest. So that is how many people are trustworthy – very few. Growth is not an easy journey, in fact it is excruciating at times. Unless someone REALLY wants to evolve and grow they will not do it because it just takes too much work!
Therefore, if you get cheated, it is not such a bad thing. The cheater simply doesn’t know better. They can’t act better. She only knows how to cheat on all her boyfriends and you were no exception. If you could look back perhaps you saw it coming. You after all are the one who chose her. So, learn a lesson – that’s not a bad thing, it’s a great thing!! Most people will cheat and if you aren’t deliberately choosing based on honest criteria you’ll get cheated on. But again, the only way to really rise above it is to, yourself, change. You have to be a trustworthy person, you have to have integrity and benevolence from the get go. If you can become this and stay this then you will simply not attract those operating at less trustworthy levels. Why would a trustworthy woman choose to be with a not trustworthy man? So you see, you’ll only find a trustworthy mate by being one yourself. If you work on achieving this, you’ve done more than most, though you still need to be discerning about who you choose to trust. Be careful, look where you are stepping.